I always said she could have them done when she asked. She initially asked when she was almost 5 so we got them done then. Trying to be responsible I took them out after 6 weeks when she went back to school after the summer holidays and then I forgot to put them in that evening. They closed up and she didn’t want to get them done again. I asked her several times in between whether she would like it done again she point blank refused. Then out of the blue she asked and we got it done with minimal fuss. Her ears her choice.
She will have to go to school with big plasters on her ears due to health and safety and it got me thinking. Had I done the right thing? What is the right age?
I must admit I think it’s abhorrent to get a baby’s ears pierced. I don’t think a parent/guardian or anyone has the right to poke holes in a child without consent. If it was medical I’d have a different opinion but it’s purely vanity. On the flip side If a child chooses to have them pierced what age is too young? Personally my issue is solely about consent so as soon as a child can communicate the fact they would like it done then fine.
If an adult was to pierce another adult without their consent it would be classed as assault so why can we do it to a nonconsensual child? I have made it very clear to my daughter from a very young age that her body is hers and hers alone. No one touches her or makes decisions about her body. Not even me! I don’t want to be a hypocrite.
Disclaimer: I will go all out Incredible Hulk mode if she tried to tattoo or pierce her face. The face belongs to ME!
I hear arguments that it hurts less if you pierce a baby ears than an older child.
“How the **** would you know?” is my reply ( in my head).
I had my ears pierced several times in several parts of my ear from the age of 10- 16. It stings a bit it’s hardly root canal surgery. So that is not a good enough reason at all. On the flip side lots of the mums in my daughters school would not let their child get their ears pierced at all, after a few discussions I know they would think I was being irresponsible. Which I don’t have an issue with.
In England and Wales there are actually no age restrictions on any piercing and many piercers have imposed their own rules and guidelines. Until something concrete is put in place the debate will rumble on as no one is breaking any laws. So each to their own.
I would love to hear your opinions and comments.